Posted by lucie lu on November 15, 2008, at 12:54:10
In reply to Re: rambling thoughts about attachment » lucie lu, posted by muffled on November 15, 2008, at 10:17:15
> > Lucie, you sure are smart.
Not so smart. I wrote a reply to you and when I later looked at the board, there it wasn't. I must have deleted it or not sent it accidentally. You'd think I'd learn but I've done this a lot.
But thanks, Muffled, for the kind words. You are such a sweetie!
That article your first link leads to is awesome! It explains so clearly all the things we've been talking about, attachment, development, the role of environment (incl trauma and therapy) and how the brain responds to all of these. Thanks so much for posting that. It's a keeper.
About what you've said about how attachment is for you, I certainly can understand about not wanting to attach. I don't know much of your history - did you ever have a T you felt any attachment to? Your current one seems well-meaning at least. From what you were saying, seems like maybe she has trouble judging your attachment (or not) to her or how it all feels to you anyway? I think for some things, it may not be necessary to be attached to a T although it would be tough if there weren't at least some mutual liking and respect. (I wouldn't even go to the my hairdresser without that - lol!) My current T is the only one where attachment has been a big factor, but that's been important because of what the therapy has been about. Other therapies I've had in the past have been shorter term, less in-depth, and it hasn't really mattered that we weren't particularly attached.
From the way you think and the things you write, Muffled, being attached to you must be really nice :)
Lucie
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