Posted by Dinah on October 24, 2008, at 12:08:40
In reply to my feelings were hurt today :-(, posted by obsidian on October 23, 2008, at 22:55:28
I would be mad as h*ll. My therapist used to get phone calls either on vibrate or ring, glance at the caller and put down. I told him that that felt disrespectful. Like I didn't have his attention, and like he was looking to see if something more important demanded his attention. He still leaves it on vibrate, but conspicuously doesn't check. I'm thisclose to asking him to please stuff it behind a cushion so that the vibrations are not as distracting.
If he knows in advance that there might be an emergency call, tells me that he needs to watch for it and take it if necessary, that would be fine and I'd understand completely. Fortunately he has a cell, so when it has happened, he's stepped outside. He hasn't asked me to leave. How rejecting is that?
I think your therapist handled it badly. Even if it was a genuine emergency, it could have been handled more graciously. Perhaps it's such an emergency that he temporarily lost his mind? That would be the most generous explanation I can think of.
And I absolutely think you should tell your therapist that you're feeling enough emergency yourself that you would like full concern when you're actually in session.
If your therapist has otherwise been good and attentive, I imagine it's a rupture that can be repaired. But in any case, my feelings would be hurt as well.
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