Posted by antigua3 on October 12, 2008, at 11:23:23
In reply to Disclosure and Reporting -- CSA/T/Suicide triggers, posted by toetapper on October 10, 2008, at 23:13:13
You are so right about being abused the second time around. But the fact that you now recognize it is huge and you got yourself away from the situation.
I'm also w/you on the whole transference issue. I certainly had bosses from hell most of my career, but I didn't recognize that I was picking jobs that put me in that situation. I had choices, and I made several that re-enacted the abuse. No longer will I do that.
There's a little alarm that goes off in my head now when I start to recognize that what I'm headed into is a repeat of my past, and I try now to take a different direction. I'm not always successful, but each time I learn more about myself.
For me, I know I'm responsible for my own decisions, but sometimes I need help in making those decisions, and that's why I depend on my T so much. But I make more of those decisions on my own now--I don't need them to be pointed out quite so much, and frankly, that's why I'm thinking of quitting my pdoc, with her support so that I can separate out what is me and what is him.
You are much further along than I am, and I applaud your efforts.
Thanks for posting,
antigua
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