Posted by Wittgensteinz on September 16, 2008, at 16:04:00
In reply to Re: Emailing your T?, posted by healing928 on September 15, 2008, at 10:16:03
When I first started therapy, I mailed some long texts to my T - he wanted me to write a 'life story', which I did in various 'episodes'. It was a good way to set the scene.
At a certain point he said that I shouldn't use e-mail as an alternative to bringing the experiences into the shared space of the therapy room - it shouldn't be a 'secrete communication' (like passing notes in class) as that's indirect. I could still e-mail but he would ask me to remind him what I'd written in my mail, so I would have to say it aloud. Now I don't need to write it, I just allow myself to say it - sometimes I will take something I've written into the session and read it.
Nowadays, I'll mail him about formal things (appointments) and if there's anything that comes to mind after the session - if I'm distressed about something etc. I mail once/twice a week - but sometimes I don't mail for a few weeks, it depends. It's nice to mail him once or twice while he's away on holiday, and he'll mail me back. He usually responds to my mails - mostly just a couple of lines, sometimes more.
I'd just ask your T how she feels about your mailing - I imagine if she was irritated by it, she'd just say. It's more likely she's been away, busy, had internet problems... or the mail/reply didn't arrive. I hope you hear from her soon. I don't think a mail a week is too much, but it's something you should discuss with your T.
Witti
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