Posted by Rigby on August 11, 2008, at 13:12:41
Hi All,
I was in therapy for five years. I accomplished a lot and stopped--not completely done but I felt I needed to just stop and see that I could survive on my own without a therapist. I was fine.
A year and a half later I've gone back for a few sessions for a specific issue.
At our last meeting on this issue which seems to be coming to a resolution I noted that her wedding rings were off. It caught me by surprise--never have I seen her w/out.
I asked if she was getting a divorce. She turned incredibly red faced and became uncomfortable. She asked if I noticed her rings before. I said all the time. Every time.
She then said, still very uncomfortable, that the rings were being re-sized.
She then said her first thought is that I would have thought I'd caused her divorce.
Huh? I said "By putting thoughts into your head?" (I broke off a thirteen year relationship while in therapy w/ her.) She said, "Well, not that literally."
Anyway, I felt very strange around that comment.
More happened but at the end we were both clueless about moving forward or not. I said I'd need to think about stuff. She said the effect we have both had on each other has always been electrifying or some word like this.
She seemed really messed up, uncomfortable, red faced, etc. All because I asked her about her wedding rings. I mean I am pretty careful not to mess with boundaries with her and I figured she could handle it but maybe I was wrong.
Comments???
poster:Rigby
thread:845511
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