Posted by raisinb on August 6, 2008, at 21:56:21
In reply to Uncomfortable... (very long), posted by wishingstar on August 6, 2008, at 13:39:07
Hi Wishingstar--
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. When I was reading your post, it sounded familiar--I guess it seems like you've had similar conflicts with her before? (correct me if I'm wrong or you have a different therapist now). Something like--you need to be seen and validated and supported, and she judges you for not trying hard enough instead. Also--paradoxically, maybe--that she doesn't push you to reveal the real, vulnerable parts of you. Or doesn't "see" them well enough to get at them.So, is there a reason why you're staying with her? I guess lots of us stay in therapy relationships that might or might not be helping simply because we're life-and-death attached (in other words, the therapy's meeting critical, long-buried needs, even if it doesn't seem to be doing anything in the short term). But it doesn't seem like that's the case with you, from your post (again, sorry if I'm wrong here). But it might be helpful to assess what exactly you're getting from it, if it isn't the real help you need.
Take this with a grain of salt; stuff like this raises my hackles. Anytime an authority figure says anything remotely judgmental to me, I banish them from my life forever. I had enough of that from my mother!
poster:raisinb
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