Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 24, 2008, at 7:55:19
In reply to Are you in love/transference with your T?, posted by stellabystarlight on July 24, 2008, at 0:00:00
I've been in love with my t for five years. It isn't "transference"----that is just a fancy word used in the therapy world.....we experience transference/countertransference in ALL relationships.
We have talked about my/our feelings for each other many, many times. It is very painful.
I could write a book on what has gone on between us...he has sexualized our relationship (no, not sex), but innuendo and touching.
He makes it VERRY confusing.
A few of his comments: 'IF I were not married, I would probably go for it....You are in my heart and in my head; if I were to give you the green light, would you go for it (He has given me so many green lights, I should be blind).......leading me on; come-ons.....
I would have felt the same about him, if I had met him anywhere else; we are so much alike, it is scary....how do I know this? Self-disclosure; we are having a persona; (forbidden, LOL) relationship.
I know I should leave him; it isn't healthy, but he is the only man in my life.
After 31 years of an abusive marriage; now divorced and alone.
I love him...I hate him for leading me on; if he had never revealed his feelings for me (they should have been worked on invisibly by him), I would have simply lived with my feelings, knowing they were MY feelings.
Sassy
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