Posted by stellabystarlight on July 22, 2008, at 0:52:25
In reply to Re: Has your T acted jealous about other men?, posted by Looney Tunes on July 22, 2008, at 0:29:52
Thanks for replying Looney Tunes.
The reason why I find satisfaction in seeing him get hurt is because I find myself in so much pain from transference or "real feelings" at times.
I do feel "love" for him, but this situation is soooo difficult. I probably would have left him already if it weren't for the fact that he is able to bring up so much from my past.
He has helped me like no other therapist has, but it comes with a lot of frustration. I'm slowly realizing that we will never be able to be together.
I'm just trying to sort out how much of his counter-transference is unusual when there is attraction involved.
Do you think that T's disclosure of attraction/jealousy is a definite sign that it will go down the slippery slope? Maybe I'm naive, but I think my T and I will just stay in this "non-physical" relationship. I'm just trying to sort this out...so confusing.
Thanks.
> Well, personally I find it a problem that your T has admitted that he is attracted to you. T's are human but they are supposed to control their contertransferance reactions to their clients.
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> Why? because look at what is happening...You are sensitive to telling him things, but you are also enjoying hurting him. You have some power there that is not positive.
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> If he said he was attracted to you, this is not normal and could head down that slippery slope..
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