Posted by LadyBug on July 14, 2008, at 22:15:02
In reply to Re: I got a letter from my T! ;-( » LadyBug, posted by Dinah on July 14, 2008, at 16:20:40
Dinah
You are so right about something must be going on in her life for her to make this decision.Here is what I believe. A long time ago, she said she was going to work until she turned 73. Well that's in several years! A year ago she told me her husband wanted her to cut down to 3 days a week so she did. I know he owned his own business and I believe that he sold it and made a butt load of money. The reason I think that is because she has been on SEVERAL trips out of the country for 3 week time periods and takes several week long trips as well. Loves to travel and now has the money to do it. She has started dressing pretty nice with a lot of cute accessories to go with her outfits. I also know her youngest child is getting married so she won't have anyone left at home to have to worry about.
She also mentioned that she wanted to be able to tend her grand kids so her daughter's could continue to work. They have wonderful jobs and wouldn't be very smart to give up because of all the education they have etc. I know one of her daughter's is an attorney and is having a baby and will be on maternity leave for 2 months before she goes back to work. That would be my guess at the date in December she has chosen as her retirement date. I think she may be going to tend the baby. But this is just my speculation.
Maybe she's known for awhile what her plans were and that is why she didn't want me to depend on her so much knowing she wouldn't be there for me much longer. I know you have a valid point there. She wants me to stand on my own so when she's gone I can do it. Well, not by choice, but I'm doing it without her now. I miss her, I miss having someone to share my struggles with. I've been overwhelmed the past year. It's been the hardest year of my entire life.
I don't want to see another T. Would you if you couldn't see your T any longer? I don't have very good feelings about therapy right now. No one can take her place and I can't even imagine trying again. Not now anyway. So that option is out. I thought about writing her a letter, only it would be just to sort out my own thoughts and feelings, I wouldn't send it.I appreciate your reply as I've said before, I have no one in my real life to share any of this with. Especially no one that understands.
My meltdown on Saturday night was because I've suffered so much loss in such a short time of the very ones I love. It's so painful at times. I know once I get some time behind me, things will seem brighter. I HOPE anyway!!!
LadyBug
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