Posted by B2chica on June 10, 2008, at 15:27:06
In reply to Re: B2Chica: About Verbal Abus, posted by sassyfrancesca on June 10, 2008, at 14:53:18
just wanna say thanks Sassy.
i haven't talked about him...well really to anyone. ever. my husband used to go to HighSchool with him so they knew each other, so he knew he was kinda weird and he knew his mom and what she was like so i could make jokes about him and stuff like if my DH would sound overbearing i'd say "well, now you just sound like "xxxx". and we'd laugh.
but my DH doesn't really know how bad it was. i mean i kinda told him but i don't think i REALLy expressed it, nor pushed the subject. mostly cuz my DH thinks he's a dork anyway.
and of course that makes me giggle inside. you know, that i know that my DH thinks very little of the guy and besides my DH could "take him"...hehe. and i laugh, but knowing that really makes me feel secure inside. maybe that's part of why we ended up together?? who knows.but someday i need to open up and tell all to my T about this guy. cuz even though i don't feel it was bad...i mean compared to the rest of what i've been through. i think he caused some of the most scars that i can't shake. ESPECIALLY body image and low self-esteem...course that was there to begin with. considering i met up with him one month after i was r@ped. i figured if that's how guys were going to treat me then ""I" would choose (underline 'I' a hundred times). and i ended up with this "dork" one night. and he clung to me like a fly to sh@t.
well i guess that should be "like a bee to a flower" right?anyway.
i wanted to thank you so much for opening this discussion.
THANKS
b2c.
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