Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2008, at 11:22:18
In reply to Re: Talk of hypothetical termination » Dinah, posted by star008 on June 7, 2008, at 16:03:41
I do have things in my early childhood that probably could have been experienced as abandonment. My mother took me and left my father to go over a thousand miles away to live with her parents, then left me there with my grandparents (who I didn't know at the time) for at least a month while she went back to pack up. Then later they reconciled and took me back here from the grandmother I'd come to rely on for the two years we lived with her.
All that was before I was five, and as I recalled it didn't much bother me. I don't remember having strong feelings about it.
But definitely there could have been some underlying fears there. Especially since people don't really discuss things with toddlers and preschoolers.
Or I could just be hardwired to be sensitive to rejection. Didn't they do infant studies that showed that?
Or some combination.
Fortunately I feel totally secure with my husband. I can't even imagine being married to someone I couldn't trust not to abandon me.
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