Posted by rskontos on May 9, 2008, at 9:50:17
In reply to I had another nightmare violence triggers, posted by Happyflower on May 9, 2008, at 8:27:40
HF, I have been finding, since my p-doc isn't very helpful with my flashbacks, to deal with the fear and helplessness during my nightmares or flashbacks which occur when I am awake, to try and tell my self over and over they can't hurt me. My abusers are sometimes my mom and her lovers. People I don't know. It is slowly working. I don't have nearly the fear level. I was not able to do it very well at first but now I find I can talk to myself very easily and it often amazes me. It was hard in either place but now I can do it in both. The last one involved actually seeing myself as a small child, I saw and felt the fear, and was able to talk myself down mostly. It isn't easy but I have been able to deal with the fear and the pain much better. I had gotten to the point I avoided going to bed because of this, but not now I have learned to control even seeing them to some extent. Does not always work but sometimes I can.
I think your dream is telling you feel so powerless against her so you must try telling yourself you have power.
I am so sorry for this horrible dream and how it made you feel.
I hope you learn to control them some. I wish I could help show you how.
I actually for weeks woke my husband up screaming. But I never remembered those dreams. Then I slowly learned some to talk myself down.
Good luck sweetie, no one should have to have such dreams.
((((HF)))))))
rsk
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