Posted by twinleaf on April 26, 2008, at 18:06:48
In reply to Is there anything you don't say to your therapist?, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2008, at 16:00:57
The other day, I was talking about something from my childhood that was very embarrassing and shameful. As I was struggling with that, I noticed that he had a comical-looking four-inch strand of wavy hair standing up straight on the top of his head ( he's got very thin sandy gray hair, and very little of it). I began to tell myself that it was a thought, so I should say it. Do you think I did? NO WAY!
Just so you all realize there's never a dull moment, last week I embarked one day on an effort to tell him my recent sexual fantasies about him. I really didn't want to one bit, and when it was over, I just sat there feeling exhausted (sort of proud of myself, too, though), The end of the hour came. As he got up, I couldn't help noticing that what I had just told him had had a very clear physically arousing effect upon him. So, I leave, thankful to have left that topic behind (no wonder I'm talking about awkward exits!).
But when I return two days later, he opens the session by calmly saying, as if he were discussing a scheduling change, "when my penis is erect, it could be wonderful, or it could be terrifying.." I'll have to leave the rest to your imagination. other than to say that it was 50 minutes of something I have never done before- talk about my own feelings, and my own body, as well as HIS. It was completely safe from any kind of boundary crossing, but it seemed tremendously daring emotionally. It all turned out fine, though- instead of feeling glad that I was over and done with talking about them, I ended feeling glad that I was able to have and stay with those feelings for him, and glad and appreciative that he had had some. too.
On the other hand, thank goodness for a few restful, dull moments, like now, paying bills...
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