Posted by frida on February 18, 2008, at 9:55:52
In reply to Therapy - Bang for the Buck?, posted by Hermitian on February 17, 2008, at 14:42:08
Hi,
I've been seeing my T for 8 years now.
I agree with what Dinah, Daisy and others have shared so far. It all depends on the needs we have, the therapy we need, what we're looking for,etc.
I wouldn't be where I am if it weren't for my T.
When you've been abused for 15 years or so since you were a little child, it takes time to build trust in others and in yourself..it takes time to learn that it's ok to talk, that you matter, it takes time to recover faith in life in general. You can't expect that 15 years of everday torture won't have an impact on your present and future life.
My T is helping me with that impact...so that i don't sabotage my present relationships and i don't stay trapped in those situations. Talking about it (which i can't do fully) helps to understand and put things in perspective and break the silence and secret. Keeping it all secret and never sharing with anyone is like living in hell all the time, as continuing the same secrecy and shame and isolation of the abuse.
I know that it's hard for other people to understand, if you haven't been there and that's OK.I've found that no matter what, what happened still interfers and influences my present. Being able to talk helps you see the difference ...
When you've lived without having some basic needs met, that just doesn't go away because 'it's in the past'. I feel grateful that my connection with my T has helped me repair some of that, and that my T is so committed to our work together.I have no doubts that she does care about me and values what we share.
I'm glad you found a therapy framework that works for you.
Frida
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