Posted by muffled on January 26, 2008, at 10:07:06
In reply to phew, posted by raisinb on January 25, 2008, at 19:03:31
>It's complicated by the fact that I feel *good* setting limits with her. It makes me feel stronger, less vulnerable, and more like I am taking care of myself, rather than waiting for her to do it (and knowing that she'll fail sometimes).
There's usu got to be some kind of 'payoff' in trnsactions...
Sometimes the payoff is driving T away.
Sometimes it protecting oneself.
It sounds like your T is terribly frustrated.
One time my T said in a mutter...I wish I could just make you mad!
Is there any chance of doing a small amount of correspondance in email, so as to take the emotional 'charge' away from the room and get to the bottom of this?
HAS this T been helpful?
Is she the T for you?
Maybe she is or is not. I have no way of knowing.
My T has not yelled at me.
She is always nice.
Though she has admitted that at times she feels I am stubborn, and I frustrate her :-)
Best wishes w/this Raisin.
M
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