Posted by Kath on January 24, 2008, at 16:22:57
In reply to Re: Don't knw If this belongs here. » 10derHeart, posted by Phillipa on January 20, 2008, at 0:06:16
Hi Phillilpa,
Hugs to you & ditto to all the nice, supportive stuff said above.
You certainly aren't too old to have surgery!!!! What a preposterous idea!! (Thanks, you gave me a chance to use a really cool word)
I think when people say mean things, they often are feeling something uncomfortable themselves. That goes for Moms, spouses, 'friends', children, siblings, etc.
It makes sense you'd be nervous about surgery & that it might stir things up for you!
I'm 60, and if this type of thing happened to me, I would NOT think it had anything to do with my life flashing by. It's just that this is stirring things up for you; understandaby.
I am so PROUD of you that you're having the surgery because YOU want to!!!!
It's not easy getting a little older & I think we can start to sort of 'second guess' ourselves.
Lately, if a store clerk calls me 'honey' or 'dear', I internally cringe & flip out!!! I think 'Do I look THAT old?!!!' BUT more than once, on my way out of the store, I've heard them call someone MUCH younger than me the same things.
I think our culture makes it HARD for women to age. Men, on the other hand, of course, become 'distinguished', 'dignified' - whatEVER. It's a very double standard & makes me very angry.
The result is that women have a hard time adjusting to getting older. It actually started several years ago, but as I get even older (oh DREADED WORD) I notice it more. I have to FIGHT buying into it!! Sometimes I'll wonder if I am 'too old' to wear something. For ex I have a pair of winter boots that I actually bought in the kids' section. They're sort of like snowmobile boots & have bright orange laces. They're really easy to slip on & off & are comfy. Yet I've found myself thinking, "Do I look ridiculous wearing these?" Simply because of my age.When is your surgery?
luv, Kath
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