Posted by Dinah on January 8, 2008, at 22:24:47
In reply to Re: Thanks for everyone's input » muffled, posted by annierose on January 8, 2008, at 20:41:33
> Plus my sister has decided she wants nothing to do with any of her siblings (and that includes me) even though I was once the only person she would confide in. This is so upsetting to me. I can't even call her as she won't accept my phone calls. Yes, I could write. But I want to wait for some time to pass. She is obviously in a great deal of emotional pain (too long of a story) and it has nothing to do with me. So why is she eliminating me from her life?
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> In therapy today, my t reminded me that she was my "friend" (meaning - in my camp) and that I need to trust her and trust her feelings towards me are positive. Instead, I work really hard to examine everything she says to make sure every context is 100% perfect. If one word could be taken differently, then I go with that meaning. Yep, that sounds right.That does sound like a good thing to work on. It could be a painful way to live life, since in my experience even the people who care most for us say things that could be hurtful if we thought about it. I try to choose to be amused or to not notice. Do you find you have the same pattern with others?
And given your sister's behavior, was it common in your family of origin? Not that I'm one to talk. I'm not close to my brother at all.
It sounds like important, if painful work.
((((Annierose))))
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