Posted by muffled on December 23, 2007, at 18:21:12
In reply to Re: So is it only me that thinks sex is evil??? » muffled, posted by Dory on December 23, 2007, at 16:01:35
> i dont know how anyone can begin to answer this question muffled. i mean, even though i think sex is awesome, what could i possibly do to let you understand that? i mean.. you have this very firmly implanted idea about sex that has been there for a very long time.. this isn't the first time you have thought hard about this. i don't think anyone else's ideas about sex are going to make a change in how you think about it.
*I think its got alot to do with repitition Dory. My T says we go over the same stuff MANY times in T. As many times as we have to B4 it sinks into my brain what is truth, and what is lies....
I agree, this is gonna be a tough go for me. But I want to do this thing for my hubby.>It is good that you think and struggle to understand, but the change in perspective is one you have to look inside for... like my T giving me reassurance, just makes me feel the need even stronger.. i have to look inside to change that.
*yes. I need to change inside. I nedd my friends and T and family to reassure me over and over and over and over and over and over ad nauseaum, that I am not bad, dirty, evil, disgusting etc etc....these are deeply planted beleifs, and they ARE changing. I see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel sometimes.
> So, no, you aren't the only one, there are lots of people out there who feel the same for various reasons. i'm not one of them though. i have had my negative experiences for sure, but i really do think sex can be a wonderful thing.*:-) Good! I am glad to hear this. It gives me hope. I need to hear the good stuff too. NOT glad to hear others have same prob though! ack! Good thing I reread this! But good to hear others can enjoy sex in a non evil way.
> i wonder muffled.. and this is just a thought.. why are you married with kids if you feel this way? That is not meant negative... just honest question. i hope it doesn't offend you*Not at all offended. I am a curious sort and am always interested in interesting questions ! LOL!
I thot I would never get married. But I met this man, and I literally could not get him out of my mind.
There IS a part that I have that...I dunno, I guess it thinks sex is funny! but it doesn't seem to mind doing it. And I guess it used that as a natural way to lure the man.
But I USED to be able to dissociate for sex, and seem to be unable to now. Which is a big problem.
I am happy to be married, I love my man, even if we fight alot! He's MINE. (((( hubby ))))
As for kids....welll...its been a challenge and not all good. But I am doing my best to make repair for any harm I might have done. I love my kids so much. I would not change having had them for all the world. But its not been easy. So we got married, so we could have kids, and it just seemed the thing to do at the time. I do not regret it at all.
Take care Dory, and don't worry, I LOVE your direct questions! :-)
M
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