Posted by annierose on November 26, 2007, at 16:26:53
In reply to Re: Giving advice about Therapy » Daisym, posted by twinleaf on November 26, 2007, at 0:33:19
>> I think a person must have some serious doubts about their therapy if they ask a friend about it. When you know you have a good therapist, you never need to ask anyone- even in the most difficult times. For example, have you ever felt the need to do that? <<<
I'm not so sure. When I bumped up something difficult in therapy and think "this must be my t's stuff", I come to babble asking for help or their opinions. And now that I know some babblers more, I may e-mail them directly, "what do you think about this?". In effect, I'm asking "Is this okay?". Without knowing the presenting problem in someone's therapy, it's hard to know whose stuff is coming up. I can only speak for myself, but over and over in my real life, I bump into problems with my interpersonal relationships. I always assume the other person doesn't really like me, doesn't really have "my back". So it's not a surprise to my therapist that those same feeings present themselves in my therapy. I constantly wonder, "Does she like me?" or conversely "Is she the right therapist for me?"
I don't think it means she isn't a good fit. Or that our theraputic relationships has serious flaws. Quite the oppposite. It can mean that I have painfully, finally gotten to the core presenting problems --- my self worth. And now I can sort through them with her.
Everyone brings different stuff to the couch. Doubt, self sabatoge, resistance ... that can all come into play and make the client wonder ... "Is this 'normal' in therapy to feel this?"
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