Posted by Dinah on November 6, 2007, at 9:00:20
In reply to Re: Blindsided this weekend,,arora...., posted by rskontos on November 6, 2007, at 8:48:45
I think it's important to not blame all of this on your emotional condition. *Even if* we might be less emotionally resilient than some, our spouses can still ask of us things that reasonable people would not be willing to give.
I remember recently I was really beating myself up for my weakness in not being able to handle something, and was surprised to my tip top that my therapist and my temporary therapist both said they couldn't handle it either, and would make other arrangements.
I was thinking I needed to work my way to normal, only to discover that my reaction was perfectly normal.
I think your reaction is perfectly normal. And if it is possible in your family, I think I'd wait until after this Christmas to when no one was visiting and suggest family visit rules that apply to *all* family members not just his parents. Just a matter of fact, no blame no personalities, discussion about who has primary responsibility when a family member comes (i.e. the spouse actually related to them who they might be expected to have warmer feelings for), how decisions will be reached about invitations, etc.
(And maybe convert wherever they'rs staying to an exercise or sewing room?)
poster:Dinah
thread:793450
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