Posted by Dory on November 1, 2007, at 11:30:26
In reply to obsessing, posted by JoniS on November 1, 2007, at 8:53:17
i don't think the dream is strange at all..
if this is on your mind so much then i think you need to speak with him about it.. and not with an expectation of him telling you his woes, but with the expectation of him telling you how he plans to keep his woes out of his work. The sebbatical is probably for that very reason.. he needs time for him and can't do both. i think that is a smart step for him to take and i hope it reassures you. He is putting his clients interests in mind by doing this.
as for his marrital status and being a family t.. well, i don't think being a marriage t means that one's own marriage *has* to work out. Sometimes t's help people go separate ways too. Things go wrong for all sorts of reasons.. would it matter if you knew the reason? would it be more comfortable if you knew for example that his wife was a screwball who took off with some drifter? Then it's in no way his fault right? i think maybe you are wondering what mistakes he has made to make this happen...
and of course, it's speculation that it's his marriage anyway. Maybe he lost his ring, maybe he damaged it somehow (like i often have).. what if his wife died? i know that's extreme, but it's meant to be just to illustrate how much your feelings might vary if the thing was filled in for you. How much would you need to know before it was ok?
it comes down to trust really.. can you trust him to do his job properly regardless?
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