Posted by Daisym on October 9, 2007, at 10:53:06
In reply to Re: caring » Dory, posted by emily99 on October 9, 2007, at 10:12:30
Perhaps you could try to imagine someone in your own life that you pay -- but care about. Like your hair stylist or gardener or whatever. These people get paid for what they do, but we care about them for who they are. I get paid to work with kids and families, (I need to feed my family) but I really do care about these people.
It isn't that I don't struggle with this. I go more for the "OK, I accept that you care about me but do you LIKE me?" Coming back to therapy after a long break I said it was probably a relief for him not to have to deal with my intensity for a while. He said, "actually, I missed you. I like working with you."
The other thing I think about is this -- is your therapist the kind of person who doesn't care about other people? Do they really seem to be only in it for the moment and for the money? What does that say about them? Perhaps you don't feel you deserve his caring - and that is a different issue - but my bet is that he does care and that is very, very scary.
It is so very hard, isn't it?
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