Posted by happyflower on October 7, 2007, at 23:04:32
In reply to another bad termination, posted by pegasus on October 7, 2007, at 21:49:47
Well I think this T needs to get into some kind of supervision with this client. I have heard a lot of times on babble on how clients get jelous of children or spouse of the T for various of reasons. So a client saying this isn't all that odd to me, it is understandable acutally. They crave something that they have never got in their life whether it is maternal or sexual. And knowing that T's immediate family recieves this from him, would make her feel envious. This is why many T's don't have personal photos around of their families.
I think he is letting his counter transference get in the way, if he can't deal with this especially after he seeks some guidence, than it is best to terminate because he won't be very effective, but this would be the last resort.
But if he can see and perhaps understand why the client feels the way they do, and he can control his own feelings to the matter, then he should continue to work with this client. It has been 2 years, so part of that could be the bond the client is feeling, and sometimes the closeness of the therapy relationship feels a lot like love to the client.
Maybe this is the first time this T has had to deal with errotic transference, if he doesn't want to seek his own conceling in this, there are a TON of books written on this subject.I don't think the client should be threatened with termination for expressing her feelings for the therapist (even if it makes the T uncomfortable). She isn't doing anything wrong. But the T's response to this needs some attention. This should be worked out, and the T needs to keep his cool on this. (it won't be the only time this will happen to them) This is somehow triggering something in the T, and makes him angry, he needs to find out why he feels that way because this will no doubt happen again in the future with another client.
That is just what I think, but I am no expert.
poster:happyflower
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