Posted by twinleaf on September 29, 2007, at 16:47:01
In reply to Re: memories of Menningers » twinleaf, posted by RealMe on September 29, 2007, at 13:41:30
That was so interesting- about Menningers', and what it was like for you. Thanks for the book reference- I think I'll see if I can find a copy.
I think strict boundaries help patients a lot- you can express lots of very painful and powerful stuff, and know that they will just be there, with all the same behaviors in place. Going over the time, or hugging or touching would bother me a lot.
My former analyst went over the boundaries in a lot of little ways- inviting me to musical events (we both like singing chorale music), and conferences he was engaged in, showing me photos of flowers he had taken on mountain holidays (I am an amateur botanist who has been going recently to places like Iceland, Svalbard and Turkey to photograph flowers). And yes, my new analyst thinks that he probably did develop sexual feelings towards me, couldn't tolerate them, and dealt with them by becoming angry and abusive. The strange thing is that I never had any sexual feelings for that analyst, at all, although I'm finding that I do for the new one! I haven't mentioned that at all yet (to the new one), but, when I do, I know he'll be very steady- neither seductive nor rejecting.
So you have, most likely, zeroed in on the real reason for his crazy behaviour- only a psychologically-trained person like you would know such a thing. Because I didn't have any similiar feelings, it honestly never crossed my mind.
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