Posted by red house on September 26, 2007, at 20:33:54
hi, i'm a lurker on the board sometimes and i've read posts in the past where people have talked about googling their Ts. i'm ashamed to admit that i've done it too, and have even told my T that i've googled her. (she didn't seem to mind at all.) sometimes it helps me to feel connected to her somehow when i google her -- like if i know something about her, then it's easier to hold onto her as a real person.
anyway, but my question is: have any of you who have googled (or somehow else) ever run across something that you wish you didn't know about your Ts? and if so, what have you done?
i recently came across something that i know i shouldn't have been able to discover and it's quite disrupting to me -- nothing bad really, just something really hard about my T's past that she'd probably never have volunteered to tell me. so i realize i "shouldn't" have found it in the first place, but now that i know, i am not sure that i'm really going to be able to keep it out of my mind in session.
any suggestions? anyone dealt with something like this? obviously honesty would be one way to go, but . . . i don't have the guts to admit what i know and that i found it in the first place.
thanks -- this is a really amazing board; i've gained so much just from reading your posts.
redhouse
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