Posted by Deputy 10derheart on September 20, 2007, at 22:00:25
In reply to Re: huh? honest question? » Dr. Bob, posted by Dory on September 20, 2007, at 17:35:26
> Can you tell me how else i could have phrased the idea without sounding uncivil with respect to your guidelines?
The idea would be to talk about fitting in by describing only *your own* feelings and behaviors, and not including negative descriptions of the behaviors, words, or actions of others.
For example, you could say:
"I feel sad, hurt and like I don't fit in here when there are misunderstandings, and sometimes I feel confused and hurt again when others don't react or respond the way I expected."Or whatever it is *you* feel - that was entirely an example, not a guess on my part at your thoughts or feelings about anything that's ever happened here.
It takes a lot of practice. I try to constantly keep in mind the concept of "not posting anything that *could* lead others to feel accused and put down." For me, the "could" part was really tough to grasp at first, but after a while, it got easier.
And for sure, there are just some things that must be left unsaid here in order to stay within the rules.
Hope this helps a bit.
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