Posted by Fallsfall on August 9, 2007, at 17:18:56
In reply to Connecting the unconscious dots - long, posted by DAisym on August 9, 2007, at 2:21:40
how do you make conscious those unconscious pockets of crud?
Good for you, Daisy. You are becoming more aware of the things that influence your life.
You are getting better at realizing that you are upset. That's the first step. The second step is to admit that you are upset. You are getting good at that, too! Then you need to talk when you are upset, you are doing that, too! But what do you talk about? You talk about whatever seems important to you. I find that if I go into a session with the idea that I WANT to figure out why I'm upset that it helps. Then when I'm in the session, I need to try to just talk about whatever I'm thinking about. If I suddenly think about my unmade bed, or going swimming as a kid, or an old boss, or what I need to buy at the grocery store, I tell him that. For those sessions, a good portion of them is just me saying whatever random thing I am thinking about. Over the course of the session, sometimes the same subject will come up over and over (maybe I'll talk about how my daughter didn't clean up, and how my boss hasn't finished the plan he needed in January, and how my mother can't figure out how to turn her computer off - as well as 10 other seemingly unconnected things). But if you look at those three things, I feel like I have to pick up the slack for my daughter, boss and mother - and maybe that is what is bothering me - that I want to pick up the slack for myself instead of them. If I didn't spend 30 minutes talking randomly, those three subjects wouldn't have all come up. And I can tell that we found the right topic when he (or I) say "Sounds like you need to pick up the slack for a lot of people", and I feel sick.
At least that's how I make the unconscious things conscious. The truth is in your mind, you just need to be receptive to seeing it.
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