Posted by DAisym on June 7, 2007, at 22:20:32
In reply to Re: holding tension in your body » sunnydays, posted by Poet on June 7, 2007, at 20:52:40
I would highly recommend "tense and release" methods of relaxation. When you feel yourself tensing up, consciously tense those muscles all the way and then release. It helps discharge the half-way stuff. It is important to breathe in when tensing and out when releasing. I like to tell clients to breathe themselves into the floor with every exhale and really feel themselves sinking and letting go. I totally understand the whole quiet mind thing - I end up freaked out or in tears. In the classes I teach, I use a Sesame Street song - Up goes the castle -- and this is a class for adults! It really works - the song is about breathing in and out.
It gets really tricky when you feel in that little girl space. My therapist is pretty good at figuring out when I'm there, although now I'll usually just tell him. Your name is a powerful weapon - all of us can recall our parent(s) calling out to us in anger - using our names. So it makes sense to me that it would be a trigger. It is scary to know how easily we are startled, even by someone we trust. One of the first things babies learn is their own name -- not that it belongs to them, but that this sound, combined with certain tones, tells them who is coming near and how that person feels.
Do you have plans for the weekend? Are there little girl things you can do? It might help.
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