Posted by Happyflower on May 31, 2007, at 12:02:50
In reply to Re: Feeling scared, T today, lots of rambling talk » Happyflower, posted by gardenergirl on May 31, 2007, at 8:16:28
Try to remember that he may do a very good job, and you may do a very good job with the work, but sometimes life throws curveballs we can't duck or hit out of the park easily. And though that feels lousy at the time, it doesn't negate all your progress, and it doesn't mean that you're not doing something right or something.
Wow, okay, this was good! ;-) I guess cognitive therapy works, eh? Okay, you are so right about this, I was just looking at it wrong because my thinking is kinda messed up at the moment. Okay that takes care of the guilt. Poof and itsn't gone, thanks! ;-)
I told him that I've come to the conclusion that dealing with recurrent depression is all about disease management. It's just like learning to manage diabetes, and adapting your management of it when circumstances change, i.e. illness, increased stress, etc. In my case, what I meant was that I've gotten better at assessing whether increased depression is biologically related, situational, or "emotional". :(
You are right about this. Knowing what kind of depression it is. Mine is mostly situational, bad marriage, chronic pain, heart attachs,and money problems. It seems like I should know better, I know the signs and nonmedical ways of dealing with it. But geeze, when you are actually involved yourself , not looking at a cclient, it is totally different and the amount of training and school, doesn't keep it from happening.
Wow, this explain on why T's are fully trained to help with others problems, they still struggle with their own stuff. It is like a heart surgeon knows how to save people with heart diease, but it doesn't mean they won't have heart problems.
This also explain my sister in law, who used to be a nurse. Why didn't she see her classic signs of heart attack in her own husband. It was so obvious. But she didn't and you would think that she would think of this automatically with her training. But when things come to your own life, everyone has to deal with it.
> So I guess what I'm saying is that first, I'm sorry you're going through all that. What a huge load on your plate. And second, it makes perfect sense that you would feel worse at a time like this, and that doesn't mean that either of you aren't still doing a "good job". And finally, you're already doing stuff to address it: going to your session, asking your DH for increased support, recognizing the effects of what's going on around you...that's all good.Thank you so much for saying that. I get it , I really do. Thanks for your support too. ((((GG)))
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