Posted by DAisym on May 25, 2007, at 16:27:34
In reply to Re: Does you T do stuff that messes with your head? » muffled, posted by Happyflower on May 25, 2007, at 13:51:51
>>>>My T says our relationship is a practice one. But I hate he said that even if it is true because then I struggle with yeah, he is being fake, and yeah my feelings aren't real. UGGGH!
<<<<If I may...perhaps "practice" might mean this is a safe relationship because you have such a strong bond and because the social expectations are so different -- not that it is fake, like a "practice test." More like practicing walking for a baby - the baby can't fake walk - but his/her steps are unsteady and they need something to grab on to when they feel they are falling. And we don't start babies out walking on a high wire, or across a busy street. We let them practice in a safe place -- like therapy.
I believe that your therapist cares about you, it isn't fake. Your feelings are real. The cool thing about therapy is that you can talk about them and have them at the same time. (OK, it isn't always cool, but it is supposed to be.:)
I'm sorry you had a hard session. I too would have been mortified if my therapist ever played a message I left for him. But the good part is that he cares about what you think and he wants you to trust him.
Therapy can be so hard!
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