Posted by pfinstegg on May 10, 2007, at 8:45:32
In reply to Re: annierose » pfinstegg, posted by susan47 on May 10, 2007, at 0:52:39
All the points you made are so important. I hadn't yet said a word that day, although I was feeling a lot of painful aloneness (my own past). He seemed to me to be acting in a near-psychotic manner. I think it's hard to get help/support when you are a senior analyst= much easier when you are young.
Of course, initially, I thought there was something awful about me that had caused it. But my husband and new analyst both have been stressing to me that that is not the case. Despite the panful ending, I constantly feel homesick for the nearly four years when he was so great.
Even though the new one is the head of the analytic institute here, I think it's a very gray area as to whether he could make suggestions to the old analyst about getting supervision or help. Everything that happened is so private- and it's really hearsay, which he could easily deny. He also could say that I am psychotic (he actually did say that to me), and can't be trusted. I do suspect that if it happened to me, it's happened to others, too- or is happening. Possibly other people go away and are never heard from again in the analytic community. I feel very sorry for him, too (when I'm not feeling sorry for myself), as he was really wonderful when he was functioning well.
The good thing is that I am doing OK with my new analyst. Thanks for your thoughts!
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