Posted by muffled on May 6, 2007, at 20:42:22
In reply to Re: this T attachment thing SUCKS**rant** » muffled, posted by Daisym on May 6, 2007, at 0:08:26
> I'm sorry you are hurting. I know this hurt too well. Separation anxiety can make us feel like we are disintegrating - melting away and they aren't there to stop it. What is it about the safety our therapists offer us that helps keep us together? But I believe that they do offer a safe space, and they are telling the truth to us about their caring. After all we've been through, don't you think we'd sense if they were lying to us? I can feel an unsafe person a thousand miles away. I bet you can too. And what would she have to gain by telling you that she is holding a safe place for you if she wasn't? Money doesn't seem like a good enough motivator.
**Aw heck Daisy, I mostly beleive she's real, but there's a part thats SO way scared. That trusts noone. Thats always waiting for the axe to fall. My T don't care bout money, I beleive that. Guess its just we challenging this wrong beleife I have "that if I talk, or am vulnerable, I will die' and the stuff that goes with it (eg -Therefore I must be very careful all the time etc etc). Guess thats got me rattled some.
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> No human is infallible. No one can control the universe, the weather or traffic. But risking this attachment is worth is. You want to feel better for your own kids. That is a huge incentive. Keep at it. You are doing great.**(((My kids))) That is why I do it. But I scared. I don't understand attachment.
Sometimes I wonder whats the point of all this. Its too hard, but I GOT TO remember my kids. Thanks so much for the remider Daisy. My T does that, when I try to back off she pulls 'the kid card', she's clever bout it...
Daisy. I hope you don't die. Thanks for talking to me. I like you lots.
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