Posted by muffled on May 5, 2007, at 11:17:29
In reply to Having an affair with my therapist......, posted by anneofkana on May 5, 2007, at 10:25:46
Hi, welcome to babble anneofK.
You wrote a beautiful post.
I think your bang on with alot of stuff from what you have said.
I am alcoholic(dry). One of the tricks of addiction is all the BS excuses we tell ourselves to get the next binge going. Like I HAVE to, I can't stand living w/o, I can't survive, just one last time, I'll be careful, I won't screw up, nothing will happen etc etc etc.
One of the best things that helps keep me dry is to remember the bad stuff that happened. I hope there will be no bad stuff for you. That you can stop, that you don't have to destroy what you have and hurt your family terribly to make you come to your senses.....
Maybe you could make a list of pros and cons, and consult it whenever you feel weak....write out the terrible hurt that would result to so many that you love. Do you want to hurt them this way?????? Visualize it in your mind. Take time to realize that pain would be so real and hurtful. Is all this worth it??? REALLY??(remember, ignore the lies that your mind will try and tell you).
Try and find some alternate coping strategies to help you thru the rough times.You can make a list to consult of those too, so when your not thinking clearly you can consult list. Do you have a trusted friend you can turn to for help? Or clergy, or T? Do not be ashamed, stuff like this happens, but you are in a position to stop this.
You CAN stop this. You just have to REALLY want to. You need to look at the ramifications.
I hope things go OK for you I really do.
Babble is a good place, but keep in mind this is a sensitive topic and we are dealing with real people here. Some of who are hurting badly. So I think you will get some good feedback, there's alot of smart people here. Remember to actually read the rules here! LOL! I didn't at first and got blocked! Ouch. Oh well,
Best to you,
Muffled
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