Posted by Honore on April 28, 2007, at 13:22:54
In reply to Question for you, posted by Declan on April 28, 2007, at 1:35:21
Well, I approach it with trepidation and a certain amount of skepticism and self-loathing.
Then if I get closer, I try to remember that it's not good for me, and that what matters and what I can work with is whatever my strengths and limitations are, and, if I can find any liking or kindness toward the person I envy, in myself, I remember that feeling, and it puts me in touch with being able to connect to what they have in a sense of fraternity (or sorority).
Sometimes that just doesn't work-- and then I give in and snarl mentally whenever the person comes to mind, and think about the fatal flaw in their personality or mind that turns me off-- which gives me a lot of temporary, if possibly not admirable, comfort. Then, I can usually forget it.
Honore
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