Posted by TherapyGirl on April 18, 2007, at 18:46:30
Okay, I know I'm a big girl and I should be able to deal with this, BUT...
My T called me today and said she'd had a death in her family over the weekend, she just got back from out of state and she was worn out and wanted to take the rest of the week off. I did manage to tell her I was sorry. But then after she canceled my session she said, "Is that okay?" So of course I said, "No." I followed that up by telling her I would be fine. She mentioned that she would be at home and available for emergencies. I told her there wasn't an emergency.
So here's the issue -- I honestly do feel bad about the death in her family and I have no doubt that she's in no shape to do therapy this week. But this is also one of those hit-me-with-reality, she's-not-really-family moments for me. She feels like my family and so every time something like this happens and I realize she's canceling on me because I'm WORK, it bowls me over.
The other issue is that I've had a lot going on this month and she was already on vacation two weeks ago. So canceling this week means that I've missed half my sessions with her. And that means the sessions I have had have been spent in "reporter" mode with not much actualy therapy going on. And there are a couple of major issues that I feel I need to deal with before I shove them down again. And I don't like feeling like I've lost the whole month to her "real life."
So I called tonight and left her a voice mail. I reiterated that I was sorry about the death and that I was fine with her taking the week off. But I said it would be helpful to me to have either a 20-30 minute phone session OR a whole extra session next week. I briefly explained my thinking on this and said that it didn't need to be this week. I also asked her to call and leave me a voice mail about whether or not she would agree to that.
So do I sound like a total whiny b*tch? Do you think she'll do it?
<Sigh>
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