Posted by littleone on March 6, 2007, at 21:13:59
In reply to I am doing good things...., posted by Iwillsurvive on March 6, 2007, at 15:06:50
You are so smart. These are very good things to do. I'm so glad you are doing good things.
> 1. I think I finally understand and mostly beleive that emotions DO actually pass most of the time. Some keep comming back at me, but it does eventually ease up.
This one is so hard to believe - especially when you're feeling real bad/upset/whatever. But once you do start to really believe it inside, I think it helps a lot.
> 2. Recognizing when I am triggered, and realizing, yes I am triggered and its setting off a cascade of emots. But realizing its a trigger and its OLD stuff, and that IN FACT this body IS safe at this time. And that the emots.. -see #1
Very good thing. recogising what's happening to you is very very good. And knowing what to say to yourself to help is also very very good.
> 3. I'm not afraid of SI, I don't beat on myself if I do. Same with dissoc, if I having a time of it, I just ride it out, sometimes its even fun, like I pretend I high or something.
Important to try not to do it (very important), but if it does happen, it doesn't mean you're a bad person. You just had a bit of a stumble and you try to learn from that stumble and keep on trying in future.
> 3. I am better able to repress stuff and keep it under wraps...(however I think I getting an ulcer...)But at least I not flipping out.
I'm not sure if this is a good one or not. I can really understand why you would put it down as a good thing. And while your T's away, repressing probably is better than digging. But in the long term, a gooder thing would probably be that you're better able to *not* repress. But that can be scary.
> 4. I am DOING. Getting stuff done, forcing myself to do stuff, and it feels good to get stuff done.
Yeah, another good one. I found that I was better at focusing on and doing work once I had better learnt to comfort my young part and manage my emotions a bit better. But then I also work better when I've cut right off from everything and I'm on autopilot. Why are you doing stuff better now?
> 5. I am reaching out some to others...
You do really good at reaching out to others. You blitz me in that department. I've really isolated a lot lately. So babble is really really hard. But when I read your post ... I just wanted to reach back to you so you know you're heard.
> 6. I am recognizing when I am getting stinking thinking.
he he stinking thinking is funny.
> I am doing all these good things.
> Good IWS.I'm glad you can see some of the steps forward you've made. That really helps a lot as you keep going forward. Helps with your hope. Hope is so precious.
> Its SO stupid however that I miss my T.
No it's not. She's so special. Of course you would miss her. I miss my T as soon as I finish a session.
I have a teenager part that calls a lot of things I wish/dream/think/feel DUMB. Lots of stuff is DUMB. And I've learnt that it's usually the wishes/dreams/thinkings/feelings of my young part that teenager thinks is REALLY DUMB.
It's helped me to remind the teenager that they may think it's DUMB, but they are real wishes/dreams/thinkings/feelings of the young part and we are trying to respect parts. I think that makes it a little easier for the teenager. It means she doesn't have to agree with those wishes/etc, she just has to acknowledge that those wishes/etc are held by one (or more) parts of us.
Does that makes sense?
I hope that doesn't sound too dumb. I don't like talking about parts. I think people think bad things about me when I do that. I'm pretty sure you won't, but I get worried that other people do.
> I can only post intermittently.
> Sorry if I am not supportive.
> I am finding it hard to be on babble.
> My gut hurts.Just do what you can. Lots is okay. Little bits is okay. Hiding is okay. You need to do what's best for you at the moment.
I'm glad you could see your good things today.
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