Posted by All Done on February 12, 2007, at 1:19:16
In reply to Things are different., posted by Daisym on February 12, 2007, at 0:50:55
> Like I said, I'm not sure this is a good thing or not. I just can't figure out why instead of being relieved I feel kind of sad.
I know exactly what you mean. I'm fairly certain I haven't figured it out, but maybe it has to do with the fact that the "real life" stuff can be so hard and scary and even though your T is there to help you, he isn't *there* in it all with you. For me, there's some comfort in the fact that when I talk to my T about missing him or feeling needy with him, it's like he knows more of what I'm talking about because it's our relationship. If I'm talking about the difficulties I have in my relationship with my mom, for example, it feels lonlier. He's helping, but most of the time I'm out there on my own dealing with it.
And I've learned there's something safe, comforting, and comfortable about knowing it's okay to miss him and need him. Even though I resist it and say it isn't okay.
Maybe this is just my stuff. Sorry if I'm projecting too much. I just went through a phase of not missing my T very much and even contemplating cutting back sessions to feeling like I don't have enough time with him. It happened in a heartbeat and it all confuses me.
Lots of hugs to you, ((((Daisy)))).
Laurie
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