Posted by LadyBug on January 29, 2007, at 22:52:32
In reply to What did she say?..when you told her you love her. » Barna, posted by Scentedgarden on January 29, 2007, at 20:01:40
I hope you don't mind me answering this question.....
.....I remember the first time I told my T I loved her, her reply was, "I think I love you in that way too." I didn't take that as a rejection or a for sure thing that she loved me. It felt ok at the time. That was years ago and I've been seeing her for 10 years now. I told her I loved her a few months ago and she said she loved me too. It was a tender moment, the night before a major surgery for me. She even gave me a hug and she doesn't touch in therapy at all, ever. I don't have erotic feelings for her at all.
I wish I had someone IRL that I loved as much as I love my T and someone that I felt cared for me like she does. It's painful to love so deeply and not be able to take that love any farther. I think you need to talk to her about it when you see her next.
Do you write in a journal? That's a safe place to put your feelings too and you can take it with you to your next visit and read any of the parts to her that you might have a hard time telling her about. Just an idea.
My T told me that my love for her won't "hurt" her and it's ok to love her.
I'm sorry you're in so much pain. It just shouldn't be. I can't remember why your visits are so far apart and why you aren't going to get to see her after that.
LadyBug
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