Posted by Dinah on January 5, 2007, at 10:08:38
In reply to being attached is hard, posted by sunnydays on January 4, 2007, at 21:26:11
It *is* hard. But it is also healing in a way. It helps open us up to being attached to others who might be able to return our attachment in equal measure.
It also does get better. Like love, attachment hurts the most in the earlier headier stages, and settles down to calm attachment as you feel more and more safe and secure in the attachment.
Oh, I just remembered something. It doesn't get completely better, because my therapist was angry at me just the other day because of my incessant need for reassurance. But he was in a rotten mood that day, and yelling at me about everything, and he's been rather repentant and reassuring since then. He's even, without prompting, brought up his caring for me a few times.
Gosh, I'd forgotten that he had gotten angry with me about that. I was wondering why he kept bringing up his caring for me.
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