Posted by Dinah on November 6, 2006, at 17:29:44
In reply to Re: Another cr*ppy session » Dinah, posted by annierose on November 5, 2006, at 8:46:58
But in general I like that comfy old marriage feel. I might be upset because I'm not feeling that.
There was an increased level of intimacy in crisis. It wasn't always, or even usually, a good sort of intimacy, but it was intimacy. I didn't feel like his Tuesday at ten.
And now I generally do feel like his Tuesday at ten. He's withdrawn into therapist mode, which is good in some ways, but I miss his transparency. I miss the intimacy. I miss feeling special, even if it wasn't always special in a good way. I know intellectually that I'm special. I know that he keeps me in mind when he's making his plans. I know that he is far more open with me than he is with most of his clients.
But he's not reaching me at an emotional level most of the time. It would be easy enough to do, but it's not the sort of thing I can ask him to do. "Please tease me with affection, or get annoyed with me, or yell at me. But let me know I touch you somehow. Because when you're touched and react from an emotional level, I can respond on an emotional level. My emotional self isn't strong enough right now to initiate an emotional level interchange. And my rational self just doesn't need therapy - or you."
poster:Dinah
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