Posted by Lindenblüte on October 17, 2006, at 20:49:58
In reply to Re: Meeting a nurturing/mothering need » littleone, posted by TherapyGirl on October 17, 2006, at 20:30:33
Every once in a while, (2x a year) I see my mom.
Sometimes she feels like being a mother. The last time I saw her, she told me that she regretted that we could never do more "mother-daughter" things when I was growing up.
So, I let her be a mom and hug me a couple times a year. The last time, I actually felt a little comfort in her hug. She's really soft. She has a very cozy embrace and a soft bosom. She's the most comfy hug I ever had, and I never realized it until a few months ago. :'(
I would only go to a person to have this need met that is going to give you what you need. If you go to them- feeling little and vulnerable probably-- and they are not ready to give that to you, it will hurt bad (in my experience)
I wish I could have more moments like that with my mom. Geez. I'm crying now. you got me missing the nurturing that was so rare and precious in my childhood.
:'''''(
I have lots of ways of being a kid (my marble roller-coaster that I bought at a toy store with my friend comes to mind!) but being a kid is not the same as being nurtured, in my (less than ideal) experience.
-Li
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