Posted by Shortelise on September 16, 2006, at 14:29:13
In reply to she called last night (long), posted by wishingstar on September 9, 2006, at 9:02:43
Hi Wishingstar
I drop in here from time to time, can't come very often.
I read your messages with great interest, remembering the times that my T has let me down, and the feelings those times provoked. Awful. My heart really goes out to you as I read.
It was hard for me to forgive my T those things when I was in the throes of the most diffiuclt things I needed help with. It was especially hard because I needed someone on my side, someone who wouldn't let me down because it felt like everything was letting me down. In the end, it has been healing to understand that even in in a caring relationship, things can go wrong, people can make mistakes. It has been so important to me to find that even when he has hurt me, it wasn't done on purpose, and that he continues to be a strong, caring support to me despite a huge mistake. It has allowed me to become more forgiving, not only of others but of myself.
You can believe she is upset with herself. She really screwed up. Isn't that human of her! :-)
It seems we all have abondonment issues - if there is anyone reading this who doesn't, I'd love to hear about it! And it so complicates things when we are trying to deal with other stuff and this stuff get involved. I mean, I know it's often part of theray as a whole , but it's so much easier if it can come up at times when things are not so... hot.
I send you warm hugs and hope you figure out what is best for you. Be kind and gentle with yourself.
Hugs
ShortE
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