Posted by Dinah on July 14, 2006, at 16:06:00
In reply to The elephant in my room, posted by ClearSkies on July 14, 2006, at 12:13:28
Last year I had only one secret left from my therapist, and it was a secret I'd just as soon take to my grave. Yet because it was the only secret left, it felt HUGE.
I have to confess that objectively it wasn't an enormously important secret.
I addressed it by first talking a couple of weeks about how embarassed I was about it, and then talked around it a bit. When I was convinced he wouldn't run screaming out of the room, I resolutely looked out the window and told him in a nonstop monologue, so that I couldn't see his reaction.
Frankly, I think it was something that shocked him, or at least made him feel uncomfortable. But he's a trooper, and by the time I turned around (and I made sure I gave him lots of time) he had composed himself into therapeutic neutrality.
All in all, I was sorry I hadn't mentioned it much earlier, and saved myself blowing it up into this enormous, well, elephant.
So I guess what I would do if I ever had another secret is to turn to face the window and blurt.
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