Posted by wishingstar on July 13, 2006, at 21:00:05
In reply to wishingstar is a great person.... » wishingstar, posted by sleepygirl on July 12, 2006, at 22:02:57
thank you for the subject line.. I wish people in my "real" life (in person) thought so right now.
I love this one thing you said, objective or not :) ... that it's "difficult to mourn things and truly own and understand our feelings a bit unless we can truly feel accepted and cared about". I TOTALLY agree. I'm not even necessairly opposed to examining whether or not some of my behavior may be manipulative, but when I tell Laurie something that really hurt me badly and my reponse to it, and she labels my response manipulative, it only makes it hurt worse. I just needed a "there, there, its ok". I agree, labeling bpd or anything else doesnt help the fact that it HURTS.It's funny because I ran across an add listing for Anne once online, and in her description she had written that she believes the key to healing is to feel thouroughly heard and listened to.. just a little ironic, huh?
And good point, I wouldnt be in therapy if my feelings were all rational. I know theyre not rational. I didnt need anyone to point it out. It's like an extra slap on top of the wound already there.
I really appreciate your post. I think my rational side of a few weeks ago, tiny as it is right now, and you would agree on a lot of things. I'm feeling pretty ok right now so it's easy for me to see this, but last night.. no way.
I just have to get over the "but what if she's right?" Just because she's a T doesnt mean she knows everything... that's what I'm trying to tell myself anyway.
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