Posted by pegasus on June 21, 2006, at 21:59:29
In reply to Please rephrase » CatieCat, posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2006, at 19:49:13
The problem here seems to be in the way CC expressed her (?) opinion, not in the opinion itself. This comes up a lot here. When someone is asked to rephrase something that they feel strongly is true, it can feel like someone is invalidating what they think or feel. Which isn't always the point of the request for rephrase.
Anyway, here are some suggestions about how CC's original comments could be rephrased to be appropriate to this site:
> Maybe it's just a major gripe of mine when someone threatens it in a manipulative way.
Could be something like: I'm not sure exactly what you meant, but sometimes people give a suicide ultimatum to try to get a certain behavior in response. That is very painful to me, because I lost a friend who did that and then didn't get the response she hoped . . . I can't stand to think that this might happen to you.
>But to threaten suicide as a plan if you don't get your way is a little ridiculous if you really think about it.
Could be: I hate to see a threat of suicide be used to try to get someone else to change. Because what if they don't change their mind? Then you would have the same problem and also be stuck with your threat, which could be a very dangerous and painful place to be. Maybe we can help you think of other things to do if worse comes to worst with your T.
Just some examples, to hopefully help.
peg
poster:pegasus
thread:659383
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060615/msgs/659964.html