Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2006, at 21:38:52
In reply to Re: I'm embarassed to post, posted by happyflower on June 20, 2006, at 20:28:13
It depends on what you mean by more.
If you mean do I want to feel special, then yes. And probably he does feel I'm special. In fact I think that he got angry with himself for considering me more than he thinks he should have, and making my needs more important to him than he thinks they should have been, and part of this is his protective pulling away.
That's the problem with being special or having boundaries bent. In the long run they do notice what they're doing and they zoing it back like a rubber band stretched too far. And ouch! That stings a lot. It feels good in the moment. But it leads to pain down the road.
If you mean do I want a relationship outside therapy? No. I can honestly say I don't. I've never felt I'd have any particular liking for him in any role other than therapist. We have nothing in common. Not likes and dislikes or ways of dealing with the world or even values. I want a strictly therapeutic relationship. In which I'm a Very Special Client. And that lasts forever.
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