It's because I loved my T first.

Posted by madeline on June 13, 2006, at 6:15:47

So, about a month ago I met a wonderful man. We have been dating and it seems as though each day I love him more. My relationship with him has been so easy. No power struggle, no defenses, no lying or clinging, just an honest, open feeling. I have been honest, myself and free to love.
This would NOT have been possible 2 years ago. Dating used to kill me, I just couldn't handle it.
However, after some thought I realize that things have been so easy with him because I have been so open and loving with my therapist. I have shared EVERYTHING with my T. I have loved him with all of my heart and it has been okay. It has been absolutely okay. Sure there has been hurt because my T can't reciprocate, but it is okay.
In fact, I can still hold my love for my T WHILE I love someone else and it gives me more confidence to love others.
I know we all struggle with "transference" (god knows I have), but loving my T has certainly helped me to be open to love in general.
I guess I just wanted to offer people some hope that the pain they feel is worth it.
Maddie

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It's because I loved my T first. madeline 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline annierose 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » annierose llrrrpp 6/13/06
***** :-)*** :-) *** :-) So happy for you!!!! (nm) » madeline muffled 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline bent 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline Dinah 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline orchid 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. happyflower 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline Daisym 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. - thanks! madeline 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » happyflower madeline 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » Daisym madeline 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline Dinah 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline milly 6/15/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline milly 6/15/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. Fall Girl 6/17/06

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