Posted by Daisym on June 8, 2006, at 19:59:56
In reply to Cant keep this secret from my T anymore, posted by bent on June 8, 2006, at 11:57:13
The past two Fridays in a row I have had major melt downs over running into things from my therapist's personal life, including seeing him out shopping. It rocked me, and I am embarrassed by how upsetting it was (is). Especially the second time in a week. But because I was upset and worrying about it, I HAD to tell him. I told him I wanted to crawl under the couch and tell him from under there...but I didn't. I just told him and suffered through the embarrassment because I needed to let go of it and I couldn't do that if I kept it a secret from him. He said he knew something was wrong the minute I walked in the room, he just wished it hadn't taken me 1/2 the session to tell him. He said he HATES knowing somethings up, usually about him, and I'm not talking about it. He said my unconscious is virtually shouting at him though...
That is my long-winded way of saying, "tell her." You will sort through it, it is scary but it will be worth it. Your therapist has shown her steadiness, don't you think you'd know, after 4 years, if she was really sensitive about stuff like this?
Good luck!
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