Posted by orchid on June 6, 2006, at 13:37:07
In reply to Re: Talking about Body Image in Therapy » Tamar, posted by 10derHeart on June 5, 2006, at 22:24:43
> > Oh yeah, and I want *all* men to be attracted to me and at the same time to be entirely safe and capable of enjoying the attraction without pushing things too far. Is that too much to ask???<<
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> You know what, Tamar, actually....it isn't. I think it's about appreciation of beauty and physical attractiveness, sexual arousal even, but *always* tempered with respect, kindness, self-control, care, consideration, decency, etc.
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> I believe that's how it was meant to be. From the beginning.
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>This topic is interesting, and I would love to hear what everyone feels about looking/feeling attractive to their Ts, because it is something which I don't have an answer myself.
For me, I don't really like being attractive to *all men* - there are many men who I certainly don't want to look attractive to (those who I find repulsive), but then others to whom I am indifferent, and don't really care if they are attracted to me or not, then the other set who I find attractive, and who I would like if they found me attractive but not actually attracted to me, then the other set to whom I am really attracted to, who I want to be attracted to me back.
The problem comes when it is someone I am attracted to, but who I shouldn't be attracted to (according to good old ethics), and vice versa.
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