Posted by orchid on April 27, 2006, at 13:15:25
In reply to Re: therapy boundries (one woman cine) » happyflower, posted by one woman cine on April 27, 2006, at 8:28:47
Hi One Woman Cine,
I understand where you are coming from. And I personally like when people who have therapists in their direct lives give us their opinion.There is no better way to learn about T and the fantasy about them rather than being able to hear from someone directly connected to them.
And I agree with you, that it helps put a pinch of reality into the situation.I am sorry that you were stalked. I really am sorry. It must have felt horrible, and I think you have every right to say your opinion about things in any board related to therapy in any sort.
That said, what HappyFlower said and Madeline said are from the perspective that, even though this board is meant for any sort of therapy discussion, and even though any thing can be discussed here, you have to acknowledge that the majority of the people here are clients.
Majority of us here do have a strong attachment to Ts and feel very emotional about it. The truth is, most of us know logically that it is a strictly professional relationship and it needs certain boundaries etc. But the emotional roller coaster that the therapy makes the clients go through is unbelievably hard for the clients. So people here usually feel extremely sensitive.
That is why I offered apology for my post, considering the factor of the sensitiveness of the issue and taking into factor how many of the folks here *feel* about therapy and therapists.
You are welcome to post here. And you have every right to. But take into factor the predominant emotional state of the people here. You can talk about your personal experiences, but do not make generalized comments (in case you did - I don't remember if you did that). Talk in terms of your personal issues rather than make it applicable to all Ts and their spouses and all patients. And also remember on the side that you are a minority here - and usually, democracy wins :-). That doesn't mean your rights will not be protected, they will be, and if some one hurts you, they will get a pbc or a block, but you may not get the most favourable response that you desire. Like it or not, that is the truth. And it is a fact of reality. But if you are prepared for that, I am sure with time and effort, you will be able to do the greatest favor to many of us here - you might have opinions so valuable to many of us here - if you say it with empathy and consideration. You might end up being the most valuable advisor here, being the one with first hand information.
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